Seniors, you are counting down the days until the end of the school year. You wait in anticipation of packing up the car and heading down the road to your new life at college. Everything seems to be the last — the last dance, the last pep rally, the last set of finals, and lastly, saying goodbye to friends and family.
This summer you will be busy packing, texting your new roommate to coordinate what to bring, registering for classes, and spending time with close friends. Meanwhile, your parents are starting to feel neglected. This time is bittersweet for them. Though they are happy to see you pursuing your dreams, they can’t imagine their home without you.
Knowing the bird has to leave the nest, there are a few things you and your parents can do to help each other during this time of transition. Let one another know you love each other and they will be missed, your relationship has been meaningful, and the transition to the next stage of life with be weathered. You are only a phone call or text message away.
So, here are some guidelines for the making the most of your time together before the great departure:
• Acknowledge your mixed emotions
• Talk about this new stage of life
• Trust your parenting skills and trust in your child’s ability
• Know there will be challenges and successes
• Spending times with friends is natural
• Tension and disagreements might arise the closer you get to the separation
• Set up times to connect; parents don’t always expect answers to your emails
• You have given each other a great gift– the development of a responsible, young adult
• Deal with the money talk
• Buy tissues for the tears that might be shed
Parents may need to get reacquainted with each other. Remember to rest, exercise, and reconnect with friends. Follow your passion. Set a schedule for communication with your child. Take a deep breath, and start to enjoy the next phase of YOUR life!